心中的日月

人的情感总是希望有所得，以为拥有的东西越多，自己就会越快乐。所以，这一人之常情就迫使我们沿着追寻获取的路走下去。可是，有一天，我们忽然惊觉：我们的忧郁、无聊、困惑、无奈、一切不快乐，都和我们的要求有关，我们之所以不快乐，是我们渴望拥有的东西太多了，或者，太执着了，不知不觉，我们已经执迷于某个事物上了。

　　譬如说，你爱上了一个人，而他(她)却不爱你，你的世界就微缩在对他(她)的感情上了，他(她)的一举手、一投足，都能吸引你的注意力，都能成为你快乐和痛苦的源泉。有时候，你明明知道那不是你的，却想去强求，或可能出于盲目自信，或过于相信精诚所至、金石为开，结果不断地努力，却遭来不断的挫折。有的靠缘分，有的靠机遇，有的得需要人们能以看山看水的心情来欣赏，不是自己的不强求，无法得到的就放弃。

　　懂得放弃才有快乐，背着包袱走路总是很辛苦。

　　我们在生活中，时刻都在取与舍中选择，我们又总是渴望着取，渴望着占有，常常忽略了舍，忽略了占有的反面--放弃。懂得了放弃的真意，也就理解了"失之东隅，收之桑榆"的妙谛。懂得了放弃的真意，静观万物，体会与世界一样博大的境界，我们自然会懂得适时地有所放弃，这正是我们获得内心平衡，获得快乐的好方法。

　　生活有时会逼迫你，不得不交出权力，不得不放走机遇，甚至不得不抛下爱情。你不可能什么都得到，生活中应该学会放弃。放弃会使你显得豁达豪爽。放弃会使你冷静主动，放弃会让你变得更智慧和更有力量。

　　什么应该放弃？放弃失恋带来的痛楚，放弃屈辱留下的仇恨，放弃心中所有难言的负荷；放弃浪费精力的争吵，放弃没完没了的解释；放弃对权力的角逐，放弃对金钱的贪欲，放弃对名利的争夺......一切源于自私的欲望，一切恶意的念头，一切固执的观念都应该放弃。

　　然而，放弃并非易事，需要很大的勇气。面对诸多不可为之事，勇于放弃，是明智的选择。只有毫不犹豫地放弃，才能重新轻松投入新生活，才会有新的发现和转机。

　　生活中缺少不了放弃。大千世界，取之弃之是相互伴随的，有所弃才有所取。人的一生是放弃和争取的矛盾统一体，潇洒地放弃不必要的名利，执著地追求自己的人生目标。

　　学会放弃，本身就是一种淘汰，一种选择，淘汰掉自己的弱项，选择自己的强项。放弃不是不思进取，恰到好处的放弃，正是为了更好地进取，常言道：退一步，海阔天空。

　　人生短暂，与浩瀚的历史长河相比，世间一切恩恩怨怨，功名利禄皆为短暂的一瞬，福兮祸所伏，祸兮福所倚。得意与失意，在人的一生中只是短短的一瞬。行至水穷处，坐看云起时。古今多少事，都付谈笑中。

　　一个老人在行驶的火车上，不小心把刚买的新鞋弄掉了一只，周围的人都为他惋惜。不料那老人立即把第二只鞋从窗口扔了出去，让人大吃一惊。老人解释道："这一只鞋无论多么昂贵，对我来说也没有用了，如果有谁捡到一双鞋，说不定还能穿呢！"

　　显然，老人的行为已有了价值判断：与其抱残守缺，不如断然放弃。我们都有过某种重要的东西失去的事，且大都在心理上投下了阴影。究其原因，就是我们并没有调整心态去面对失去，没有从心理上承认失去，总是沉湎于已经不存在的东西。事实上，与其为失去的而懊恼，不如正视现实，换一个角度想问题：也许你失去的，正是他人应该得到的。

普希金在一首诗中写道："一切都是暂时的，一切都会消逝；让失去的变为可爱。"有时，失去不一定是忧伤，反而会成为一种美丽；失去不一定是损失，反倒是一种奉献。只要我们抱着积极乐观的心态，失去也会变得可爱。

　　人生箴言：
　　放弃是一种睿智，它可以放飞心灵，可以还原本性，使你真实地享受人生；放弃是一种选择，没有明智的放弃就没有辉煌的选择。
　　进退从容，积极乐观，必然会迎来光辉的未来。放弃决不是毫无主见，随波逐流，更不是知难而退，而是一种寻求主动，积极进取的人生态度。

Finally we have a trip together. The last trip with my dears was few years back to Phuket but Ching yee not able to join us. I Fly to Bangkok with kim on 9/8/2010 at night and others will fly on 10/8/10. Owen so kind and he sent us to airport. Thanks so much! Once we reach hotel (first hotel at Pratunam) and we had a supper near hotel. A yummy beef noodle.



(10/8/2010) The next morning i accompany Kim to pray (near Isetan), oppss... she go pray and i go Isetan for my first shopping schedule. hahaha.. After that met CY, SW and WF in Platinum and had lunch in Platinum Food court. After lunch we starts our shopping till 5pm. After that we go Siam Square for dinner at Coca Steamboat. Specially request by Ms. Shei Wei. All of us love the steamboat as well.





(11/8/2010) It is Sunday!! Of course we go for Bangkok weekend market Chatuchak. Weather is hot there, but at least we bought something there too. After Chatuchak we went back hotel and go to somewhere near Siam square for a shop. We had dinner in China Town for seafood and of course the bird's nest as dessert. After dessert we went back hotel and change to a better dress to Banyan Tree (Vertigo) for a rooftop drinking session.





(12/8/2010) Our last day.. Continue with Platinum mall for shopping as we haven cover all level yet. After shopping WF said she wish to eat the Coca again. We had another meal in Coca Steamboat. We shop around Siam square and had our dessert at Swensen.






- This is Kim's Luggage.. haha. Of course most of are her stocks for her shop.

(13/8/2010) Is time to go home!!!! SW, WF, CY in the same flight (an hour early than me and kim).

I'm still using OS 3.1.3 and going to Jailbreak to OS 4.0.1.

This is the way papa ed teaches me.

1. Go to http://appldnld.apple.com/iPhone4/061-8618.20100715.Zapn4/iPhone2,1_4.0.1_8A306_Restore.ipsw (download this and backup in itunes first)

2. How to backup in itunes? Just plug in your cable to iphone and open the itunes and it will automatic backing up your info to your PC first.

3. Once backup everything, in itunes, PRESS and HOLD SHIFT BUTTON (in ur keyboard) then click on RESTORE (in the itunes)Find the .ipsw file that u download it previously. Then click RESTORE.

4. There will be an Apple logo and a loading bar below the apple. If failed, try to change your cable to another USB port in your computer/laptop and try again. As i face this problem (show error occurs) once i change the usb port. everything fine.

5. Once everything done, follow what itunes/ iphone steps by steps (restore back the previous data that u backup in itunes - apps, emails, sms, photos, etc. Wait it sync to your iphone.

6. Then go to SETTING, SAFARI, CLEAR "cookies, history and cache" then use safari to open www.jailbreakme.com . Slide, and it will start jailbreak..


6. You can find Cydia at home screen. Go to Cydia

1. Launch Cydia
2. Click on “Manage” on the bottom of the Cydia screen
3. Select “Sources” from the Cydia screen.
4. Select “Edit” on the top right of the screen. (You should be on a list of sources).
5. Select “Add” from the top left of the screen.
6. Enter the following when prompted: ttp://cydia.hackulo.us
7. Press “Add Source“.
8. Once the source has been added, go to “Search” on the bottom of the Cydia window.
9. Type in “Installous” and continue.
10. Install “Installous” on your iPhone from Cydia.

7. If you have some apps still not yet sync into your iphone in previous sync, u can sync again and most apps will back to your iphone.

8. WELCOME TO THE CLUB!!! ANY PROBLEM on Jailbreak... NO NEED TO CALL ME.. hahaha
DON'T THINK I CAN HELP. IF YOU CANNOT DO IT WITH ABOVE STEPS... hahahha. SORRY!!